First dance suggestions for a harmonious and nonviolent wedding dance experience

wedding dance ideas, choreography

First Wedding Dance Dancer’s Oath 

Do not, under any circumstances, suggest, criticize, or even compliment your partner!

Fine print:

If it becomes unbearable, you should talk to your wedding dance choreographer (who is also your dance lawyer, dance policeman, dance doctor, and dance instructor!)

Don’t Use Artificial Fog.

We discourage using fog because, during the dance, the audience will not see the couple.

Fog might also confuse and visually impair the couple themselves during the dance. This might be even more uncomfortable if the groom is unused to dancing with the bride while she is in her wedding dress.

Banquet halls may surprise couples by introducing artificial fog during the dance without first consulting the dancers. Be sure to inform them beforehand if you want to avoid this on your wedding day.

Don’t Use Artificial Fog during your wedding dance

Dance First – Eat Later

After your happy (but stressful) day, you will be tempted to sit down, rest and sample that delicious-looking buffet you’ve been planning for months. A word to the wise;
Dance first, eat later! Once you’ve started “just a taste,” you probably won’t be able to stop, and once you’re full, you probably won’t be able to dance. At least not the way you’ve been practicing. Dance your dance, impress your audience, and then sit down, relax, and eat according to your heart’s desire. You deserve it!

Also, refrain from alcoholic beverages before your dance. Drinking to boost your bravery never works and leads to disappointing results.

wedding dance before wedding dinner

Wedding Outfits

Men’s Outfit

There are a couple of things to consider with the men’s outfit.

First, men’s suits are traditionally buttoned up with the bottom button open. You must pay attention to how the suit sits on you while dancing. During certain dance moves, such as twirling your partner, if the suit does not sit well on you and lacks arm and elbow freedom, it will bunch up on the shoulder, creating an ugly, bulky effect. It may also restrict arm and shoulder movement and be uncomfortable during the dance.

If you choose to wear a vest without a jacket during your wedding dance, you may want to consider getting a vest that is longer than your belt line and covers it from the back during dancing. If you bend even slightly, your shirt will come untucked from your pants and bulk around between the short vest and belt. This will not be a visual issue if your vest is longer.

You might also like to remember that vests with no adjusting belts on the back and a plain, straight back are more aesthetically pleasing.

Strapless Dresses

During previous years, brides have shared some personal wedding experiences regarding their strapless dresses. On more than one occasion, brides tended to lose weight while leading up to their wedding day. Unfortunately, they did not consider re-adjusting their dresses and ended up stuffing the tops, only to have the stuffing fall out during their dance performances. As you can imagine, this could bee not really pleasant.

During dress fittings, brides might try the steps they learned for their wedding dance routine (choreography) to see if they are comfortable and safe. If the bride has any concerns or difficulties, she should contact their dance instructor to adjust their dance pattern.

If you are planning to continue with Ballroom Dance Classes as your future family hobby, it is a good idea to get real dance shoes for your Wedding First Dance. They are much lighter, softer, and more glamorous than regular shoes.

Men’s shoes are usually quite stiff, so it might be a good idea to get started by breaking them in on a clean dance floor beforehand.

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Wedding Shoes

As with the wedding gown, it would also be quite valuable for you to dance a few (or all) dance classes with your actual wedding shoes or a quite similar pair with the same size heels. This will make it much easier for you to cope with your wedding day.

For ladies who aren’t used to wearing high heels, this is the best time for you to practice. It would be best to start wearing heels as soon as possible to train your feet and calf muscles to adapt. Otherwise, they will be very sore on your wedding day.

Many brides reach the moment of their wedding dance and are so tired they end up dancing barefoot or in flats. While it is understandable that you are exhausted after so much pre-wedding planning and all day on your feet on your actual wedding day, do not “heel-down.” What that means is, perhaps, consider wearing (and having your dress adjusted to) lower heels for the whole day and then wearing higher heels for the actual dance. This way, your feet won’t be killing you, and not only that but your dress will, ever so slightly, be lifted off the floor. This will allow for ease of movement on the floor and prevent you and your partner from stepping on your dress and tripping, which is more likely to happen when you “heel-down” instead of up.

If you plan to continue with Ballroom Dance Classes as your future family hobby, getting authentic dance shoes for your Wedding First Dance is a good idea. They are much lighter, softer, and more glamorous than regular shoes.

Men’s shoes are usually quite stiff, so it might be a good idea to get started by breaking them in on a clean dance floor beforehand.

wedding shoes

Wedding Shoes With Embellishments

Beware of embellishments on your wedding shoes; they may catch onto your dress and either trip you or ruin it. Since it is quite possible that you will not be practicing dancing in your wedding shoes and dress, anything unexpected could also throw you off your routine and ruin your dance. Remember that although you want the perfect pair of shoes for your ideal day, nobody will focus on the shoes underneath your dress!

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Wedding Shoe band

Shoe size can be a hassle. We’ve all been there. You try the shoes for a few minutes at the store; you like them, you buy them. A few weeks later, you can show them off at your best friend’s wedding, but during your first moves on the dance floor, the left shoe comes flying off and hits your date on the cheek! Okay, maybe not, but to be safe, try our see-through shoe bands if they are a bit loose. These will keep your shoes safe, secure and suitable where they should be, on your feet!

Showbands are available upon request. Please feel free to contact the studio if you’d like more information.

wedding Shoe Accessory

Contact Lenses

Please bring your contacts to each lesson so you can practice with them and get used to having them while you dance.

If you are used to wearing glasses but are planning to wear contact lenses during the wedding, please give yourself enough time to adapt to them. Your eyes and brain need to get used to them to adjust your balance. Often, contacts delay your reaction because they are “floating” on the eye’s surface and do not allow you to see things exactly at the time they occur. There can be a slight delay, making keeping the movement’s balance and coordination challenging.

lenses for wedding dance

Comfortable Dancing

Smaller steps mean more comfortable dancing. A considerable stereotype of dancing is that you need to take significant strides. Your steps should be as close to walking as possible to make your dance safer and more comfortable.

Men sometimes worry that they will forget their dance patterns. There is no need to find more reasons to stress on your wedding day. Do not be afraid to stop and start again from a move you are most familiar with. Even in ballroom dance competitions, if a couple needs to stop and start again from wherever it is required, it does not count as a mistake. Good dancers are not those who do not make mistakes but those who do not show them.

Dance Practice

1- Practice in different rooms. Getting used to a specific room makes adapting to a different size and layout on your wedding day more challenging.

2-Have your lessons while wearing one of our practice wedding gowns or skirts. It is helpful for both of you to simulate how the bride will look on the wedding day. Other benefits of practicing in a skirt or dress similar dress to yours include the following:

A—Getting used to NOT LOOKING DOWN! One of the most common bad habits during dance practice is when couples look at their or their partner’s feet while dancing. First, this is distracting and hesitant-looking and does not allow for proper lead and follow. Second, it does not portray confidence. The couple should look up at each other or their guests, not down at their feet.

B—Getting used to dancing in a similar-style dress. This prevents distraction on the day of your wedding from trying to figure out how to move in a style of clothing you have never tried before. For many brides, their dress is big and bulky or tight-fitting and hard to move in. For example, mermaid-type wedding dresses have limited movement.

C – Wearing similar dresses while dancing allows us to choreograph a dance that both works for your dress and works for you. For example, bulky dresses have lots of fabric, which may be challenging to walk around with. The dress would need to be appropriately bustled, and during class, you would get used to dealing with lots of fabric and learning how to use the fabric for embellishment to add flare and grace to your dance.3- Once a month, we offer all our students who are yet to be married an opportunity to practice their dance in front of other studio students and wedding couples. This is your chance to present your routine and gain confidence. One such performance is equivalent to two or three private wedding dance classes.

4—Practice on your wedding day! Try to find five to ten minutes before people start piling into the room where you will be performing. Go through your dance twice without music to refresh the pattern and adjust your dance routine to the actual room. Practicing more than twice may create a nervous buildup of tension, mistrust, and emotional exhaustion.

first dance practice

Take Notes!

Consider taking notes during class to remember the steps you just learned. Some people take notes, draw some draw, and even take pictures or videotape the dance at the end of the class. You know how you best retain information. We encourage anything to help you practice at home and progress as fast as possible before your wedding day.

take notes on dance lesson


The dance performance will almost always excite and invigorate you. It will possibly also make you nervous. The reason behind all this is your pumping adrenaline. Usually, people feel the pressure of everything coming together on their wedding day, the stress of performing for an audience and wanting everything to be perfect. Remember that adrenaline can be your best friend or worst enemy; believe it or not, it is ultimately your choice. This will require you to be aware of what’s going on inside you. An adrenaline rush can cause disorientation and/or blanking out, leading to the misinterpretation of musical rhythm and causing you to dance at a different speed from the music and confusing your patterns.

There are a few other things you can do about this. If you feel like you need to go faster, do the exact opposite. Try to slow down and avoid chasing the beat or accelerating your movement. Instead, please wait for the next beat and fall in with it. Focus on the rhythm so you don’t lose your pace on the dance floor.

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Children on the Dance Floor

Please be aware that parents are often distracted and not paying attention to their youngsters’ whereabouts. Children can be fascinated by the glittering wedding dress and glamorous allure of the dancing couple. They may be tempted to come close and touch, watch or even join in the excitement. Behind the big dress and focus on your spotlight moment, you might not notice them standing there. Just remember to ask the DJ to remind parents to watch for their kids and maybe have someone keep an eye out.

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Changes to the Dance

We recommend avoiding last-minute changes to your choreography one or even two weeks before your wedding day. On average, couples start taking classes around three months before their wedding day and get used to their patterns. Muscle memory is already working to its advantage, and changing steps too close to the performance day will create a significant chance of confusion, leading to mistakes.


Try assigning a significant role to a few in your bridal party to cheer loudly during your performance. Guests are often confused between a dance performance and a music performance. At a music performance, the audience will be quiet until the piece of music is done, whereas, at a dance performance, they will cheer the dancers on throughout the show. Your selected guests will serve as an example to your audience and provide you with emotional support and encouragement as you dance.

Your wedding dance is a gift!

Remember that your dance is a gift to each other and your guests. Each pattern that you learn is a meaningful, visual representation of your love story. Your teacher will explain that your dance isn’t just several steps during your lessons, but each move will have purpose and meaning that will make it easier to understand and memorize. Please also remember that your audience won’t know your next move, so you should consider any mistake as a variation of your step and cover for each other. Don’t show any facial or body language that may betray the fact that you’ve done something different. There is absolutely no need to place the unnecessary pressure of a professional ballroom dance performance on your shoulders.

first dance gift

Keep It Secret!

We have had many students who have preferred to refrain from letting others know about taking dance classes. That helped avoid the extra pressure and, of course, create more of a surprise!

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